Being a defence wife is not a cake walk, it is one of the most challenging things a woman has to go through. Yes, we can’t deny the fact that they are respected and get to enjoy many things that a normal civilian wife do not get to see or experience. But there are hard truths about being a defence spouse that is not known by all. Today we are going to share with you some such Harsh Truths about being a defence wife.
Being a solo parent is just one of the many ways that Military life is hard. It can really get to you and each day can be a struggle. And as much as there are good things about Military life like homecomings, good friends, taking pride in what your spouse is doing, there are some hard truths about it as well. Taking care of the kids alone, running around for them might turn out roughnecking at times.
This one can be hard for some people, especially if you can’t make it home to be with other family members. Deployments and training don’t usually take off for the holidays, especially the smaller ones. You can’t ever assume that they will be home for holidays like Diwali and New Years, if they are, you are one of the lucky ones. But usually, defence spouse do not get time to celebrate special occasions together.
Many Defence spouses have had to do this. Although a lot of commands do try to make it so that your spouse will be with you for the birth, it isn’t always possible. Due to some work emergencies, he might not be there with you while you give birth to your baby. Thank goodness for technology, Applications like Skype or WhatsApp are there to connect you but the real struggle and complications are faced by the wife alone.
It is hard to always have to say goodbye and then try to make new friends again but Defence spouses do it. They do it all the time.
Military life includes a lot of moves. That means that people will be coming and going all the time. As a Defence spouse, you will have to say goodbye to a lot of people, your kids will too. Some of these people will be your best friends and saying goodbye will hurt in the worst way.
Because of the way Defence life works, you will become more independent as a Defence spouse. You will have to run the household, pay all the bills, make a lot of decisions alone that a lot of couples make together. All of that will make you very independent. There will be days when you feel a little unwell and sick, but you cannot just sit back home and relax, you will have to do what it ought to be done. In the absence of your spouse, you are the man of the house.
Special moments and occasions when you need your spouse the most are celebrated alone or with friends. On these special occasions, you tend to miss them all the more, Nothing feels exciting and everything is dull. And that’s the kind of life lived by a military spouse.