Reasons You’re Still Single Even When You Are Ready To Get Married

It isn’t very surprising to know that there are women who really want and wish to get married but aren’t married yet. Lets try to find out the reasons for this and also ways to overcome such situations.

Appearing too desperate to get married

A man can smell a woman’s desperation for marriage like a shark smells blood. The more she wants it, the more he resists, creating an imbalance of power in the relationship. He’s in the driver’s seat, fully in control, while she’s helpless in the backseat. Such asymmetry in a coupling can make a woman feel insecure. It leads to more problems in the relationship and an erosion of her self-esteem.

Here is what you need to know:

You are enough right this minute. Period. Not understanding this is a major obstacle to getting married, since women who don’t know their own worth make terrible wives. Why? You can fake it for a while, but ultimately you won’t love your spouse any better than you love yourself. Smart men know this.— Tracy McMillan, author of “Why You’re Not Married…Yet”

The Drama Queens

I’m sure we all have at least one girlfriend who’s a drama queen. She’s always in conflict with family members, co-workers, and friends. Her life would be far too mundane and unsatisfying for her if she wasn’t constantly involved in turmoil. She welcomes it into her life and thrives on it. As her friends, we appreciate this and can deal with it on a limited basis.

Most men, on the other hand, can’t tolerate drama queens for very long. If there’s a problem in their lives, they want to fix it as soon as possible, make it go away, and return to a tranquil state. While guys may initially be attracted to drama queens, they soon become disenchanted when new problems keep arising. God forbid, they’d ever want a lifetime of this tumult.

Men do not want emotional drama queens who use their feminine wiles to manipulate them out of their time or money. Dealing with emotional outbursts, sneaky ways and pushiness does not go over well in the long run with a man. He wants a woman who is emotionally stable and authentic in both her words and actions. He is not looking for a spoiled little girl who is ill-equipped to handle the ups and downs of life; he is looking for a woman.— Bree Maresca-Kramer, relationship expert

Negative Thinking

Modern life is stressful enough with high pressure careers, long commutes, technology overload, demanding bosses, and a never-ending paying of bills. Men want a partner who brings joy, calmness and energy into their lives and doesn’t deplete them with negativity. The last thing they need is peace at home. If you’re not there to bolster your guy, he’s not going to want you for the long haul.

Fear of being alone is a huge factor that keeps people in bad relationships. The underlying message is that you’re not able to take care of yourself.— Lauren Mackler, author of “Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life”

Being with the wrong guy

There are women who desire to get married so intensely that they overlook one crucial thing; they’re with the wrong guy! No matter how much they change themselves or try to change him, the relationship isn’t going to work because they’re simply not a perfect match. A woman in such a situation knows this deep down in her soul, but her thinking is clouded by the time and effort she’s already invested in the relationship. It’s too devastating to admit she made a mistake, wasted so many years, and now must look elsewhere for love and commitment.

So ladies if you are one of those who is ready to get married but is still single, it is the right time for you see and analyze if you are dating a right person or is it your nature or behavior that is responsible for you being single.

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