One of the trickiest and complicated relationships is probably the one a woman has with her mother-in-law.
It happens with many, despite being a confident person, women feel extra conscious around their mother-in-law. The situation might drive you nuts trying to present yourself as the ideal daughter-in-law, who is smart, funny, kind, and best for her son. These days the cute and positive relationship shared by a Bollywood actress Sameera Reddy with her mother in-law is quite famous on the social media especially on Instagram and YouTube these days. The relationship shared by them is surreal and adorable.
If you are a married women we are sure you would love to have a healthy relationship with your mother in law
Here are some easy tips that will help you bond with your mother-in-law and make your relationship better.
Bond Over Food
Many may find this idea cliché, but it works most of the time. In addition, this work regardless of whether you live in a joint family or nuclear family, irrespective you know how to cook or not, bonding over food works magic. You can ask your husband’s mom favourite recipes or maybe a one that is loved by your better half. If you know how to cook, nothing like it, however in case you don’t, help her out in the kitchen by assisting her.
Ask and consider her advice
Your mother-in-law will love it if you open up to her and ask for her advice over matters. Asking for advice can initiate a bond between you two. This may make you seem vulnerable but being open about your concerns and opinions will not only help your mother-in-law in understanding you but will also make her feel that you respect her views as well.
Initiate conversations about your partner’s childhood
Your mother-in-law might feel insecure that now you may be the most important person in her son’s life. To help eliminate this feeling, try engaging in conversations where she can talk about her son and most importantly, his childhood. She will immediately start showing you photo albums and tell you all the embarrassing stories about your partner. This way, you can show her that you care about her relationship history with your partner.
Don’t be anyone but yourself.
Your spouse married you because they see something amazing and special about you. Don’t let your mother-in-law miss out on seeing that something special as well. You don’t need to pretend that you two are best friends if you have nothing in common, or rave over her meatloaf if you hate the dish in general. Over time, she will see the genuine you and appreciate that over any fake personality you made up to try and impress her. Ever family is different so don’t feel like you need to be a perfect fit into their dynamic.
Give The ‘MOM’ Treatment to her
There is a simple way to get closer to your MIL – treat her like your Mom. If she says something that you did not like – just ignore like you ignore your mother’s anger, and if she gives you advice – take it.
Focus on her good qualities
Instead of always digging out points to blame her, why don’t you focus only on the good things she does? Like when she makes you breakfast, cleans your room or helps you with the daily chores.
Mother in laws love a good compliment and they will never tire of it! So, when she cooks or organizes something be sure to let her know great she is. Say these things with a warm smile to show that you are actually genuine about it.