When it comes to Arranged Marriages, call it shyness or hoping for things to settle down on their own later, not many couples prefer to ask certain questions before they get hitched.
As relationship expert Robert Scuka said in an interview with The New York Times, “If you don’t deal with an issue before marriage, you will deal with it while you are married.”
Marriage means two souls coming together, where there is hardly any room for hiding things.
Silence before marriage could turn out quite harmful in the later days.
If you are thinking about tying the knot then be sure that your future life partner to be- can honestly answer these questions to your liking.
Q 1) Why do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?
Life is a journey- one that is best not travelled alone.
We all need someone to be with us in all our days of ups and downs. Our life partner should also be our best friend, with whom you share anything and everything.
If the answer to this question is “Because I love you”, you are halfway reaching your goal of a Perfect Married Life. But Love alone cannot suffice, with marriage comes responsibilities, duties and many more things to take care of.
Your life partner should be able to tell you what life experiences he/she hopes to share with you so you know if he/she would actually be able to spend the rest of his/her life with you. There should be compatibility and understanding between you two, to help create a healthy and a happy Married Life.
Q 2) Do you really want to get married or Are you being forced into it?
It is very essential to know the very motive of marriage, as some parents force their children to get married for various reasons which could be Age, Economic issues, Past Alliances etc.
There could be many reasons but It’s better to confirm if he or she really wants to get married or they are just being pressurized. If the person is not really willing to get married, chances are there he will not give 100% of himself to his marital duties. Make sure that he/she is not forced into it and is equally willing to get into this relationship.
Marriage is a big step and a big phase of one’s life so clear all your doubts, choose wisely and live happily.
Q 3) How do we resolve conflicts?
Asking your partner how do they resolve conflicts at home- by discussing issues, fighting or shutting down, is one of the most important questions to ask before marriage.
The partners should know how they are going to settle the conflicts and issues they are going to face in the days to come.
Especially, for a girl who is going to live with an entirely new family after marriage should know how conflicts are settled at home.
It is always a good insight to figure out such things so you are prepared to handle the onslaught without feeling hurt or confused.
Q 4) What are your beliefs on Religion?
If two people are coming together from a different religious background, they can undergo various conflicts over religious tradition which can get severe when children are added to the mix.
Not only the couples but even children will have a hard time deciding which religion to follow. Settling things at the right time would help in solving many upcoming/unseen problems.
If the couple decides to have children, they must ask how the children’s religious education will be handled.