It takes a strong woman to love a military man.
Getting married to someone from the military isn’t a cake walk. It is not an ordinary journey that a girl takes up when she agrees to marry a defence guy. It takes a whole lot of enthusiasm and commitment to be a strong defence wife.
It is exciting to know that you will now be married to one brave soul who is protecting the country and also, who will protect you and take care of you. But one thing you should be very clear about in your mind is that your husband is not going to stay with you all the time. He may be posted somewhere else and you might just get to see each other twice or thrice a year. This is the beginning of the challenges of being an army wife. Though married you will always crave for your husband’s presence. Not only this, you will always be worried about their well being and safety. Your husband not being around will demand you to become the man of the house. From doing all the household chores to going out for shopping and buying groceries and fixing things at home. These all will now be your responsibility.
You’ve got to be okay with putting your career on the back burner sometimes because moving all over the place and maintaining a career isn’t as easy as it looks.
You’ve got to be okay with letting go some of the control in your life because Lord knows the military is going to make some big life decisions for you. You’ve got to be okay with leaving close friends and family behind while you start a new life.
You’ve got to be okay when facing way more drama in the military community than you ever wished.
You’ve got to be okay with delivering and parenting alone and feeling lonely most of the time.
You’ve got to be okay with making new friends over and over and over again.
You’ve got to be okay with spending as much of your marriage apart as you do together.
You’ve got to be okay with talking about death, dying, and the traumatic effects of war.
You’ve got to be okay with finding the positive in the midst of really, really hard.
You’ve got to be okay choosing happiness in the midst of some really challenging circumstances.
And worry not,you will be okay..
Because you are strong, resilient and tougher than YOU ever imagined.
But it’s all of these things, and so much more, that make life as a military wife really hard sometimes. In the midst of all this, remember that you are playing an extremely important part in protecting and safeguarding your country indirectly, the reason being, your husband’s strength is directly proportional to yours. You are the one making him stand strong always.