“Tolerance” A Key to Happiness

Life is not easy for anybody. From the richest to the poorest person alive on this earth, everybody has their own problems. But does it mean we should just sit back and try not to settle our issues? No, we need to fight back to survive. This exact thing happens in a relationship as well, you won’t find a single relationship that is too easy to handle. When two different people take a vow to become one and promise to never separate till death do them part is when the real struggle begins. Even though they live together and share everything, there comes a time when their opinions collide or do not have an indifferent choice. When one becomes weak the other partner needs to act stronger. That’s a golden rule for a happy and peaceful relationship. Things not working out your way does not mean you should give up.

Especially after getting married, people have started to become so intolerant that their marriage do not last even for a month or so. We do not suggest anybody to live a traditional life following and obeying the in-laws, adjusting with everything around you, but a married woman should know that she now is living in a total new environment, sharing a bed and all her belongings with somebody, it is not easy to adjust all the time. Still she should give her level best in maintaining the relationship, and give herself time. In the same manner a boy should also understand the girl’s situation, it is not easy to just get married and easily getting along with an entire new family, everything takes time, especially settling down. He should respect her wife’s opinions and also try to create for her a happy and comfort place.

Today, we are sharing with you some tips on how to keep your relationship stronger-:

Practice acceptance and appreciation

Here’s a quote from Richo that expresses this idea: “In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, non-intrusively, the way we are present with things in nature. We do not tell a birch tree it should be more like an elm. We face it with no agenda, only appreciation . . .”

 Recognize that all relationships have their ups and downs

Just as you can’t expect to be happy all the time, you shouldn’t expect your relationship to be at a continuous high.  When you make a long-term commitment to someone you have to be willing to ride the highs, as well as the lows, together.

 Use the word “we”

Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., explains that researcher Robert Levenson and his colleagues at the University of California, Berkeley, found that    couples who use the word “we” when talking are happier, calmer, and in general are more satisfied with their relationships than couples whose communication is more populated by the pronouns “you”, “me” and “I”.

 Keep the novelty alive

Constantly try new activities together. This creates the excitement and the uncertainty that comes from the unknown, even if you’re with someone whom you know as well as the back of your hand.

 Give your partner space

In human relationships: we want closeness, but we also want space. The key is to find that sweet spot at which we feel the warmth that comes from being in a relationship, while at the same time allowing each partner to have enough space so that neither one feels like they’re being pricked by the other’s spines (feelings of lost individuality, feeling crowded, and so on).

 Allow yourself to be vulnerable

 Vulnerability holds the key to emotional intimacy. Vulnerability is about being honest with how we feel, about our fears, about what we need, and asking for what we need. It’s allowing ourselves to be truly seen by our partner, warts and all.

 Say “I love you” with your actions

Perform little acts of kindness for your partner that let them know you love them. Sometimes words just ain’t enough.

 Maintaining a healthy relationship is difficult, you need to sacrifice a lot, But remember Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations. 🙂

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