Feeling disconnected from your spouse can be both confusing and concerning. You might be wondering if you’re really going through such phase in life. (We all do this at times.) Or is this a normal feeling for a married couple? Is it a sign of something deeper and perhaps more troubling?
The question is: What will you do about this feeling of disconnection and feeling a part from each other?
HERE ARE FOUR SUGGESTIONS TO HELP YOU GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS SITUATION.
1. Have a proper conversation with your spouse about how you feel
Sounds obvious, right? We often sit with these feelings for far too long without dealing with them directly. You can be as straightforward as I just wanted to let you know that I feel disconnected from you lately. Can we talk about it?
Your spouse might feel the same way, and you can begin to address it together. Your spouse might explain how they’ve been stressed out lately and offer to plan time together to reconnect.
2. Know that you both need each other and get involved in actions and activities that help you feel connected
We’re all wired differently. We experience connection uniquely. Your spouse might think that if there aren’t any obvious problems, all is well in your marriage. (If we’re keeping things real, this is often the default setting for many people.)
3. Make sure to take care of yourself
This is not a roundabout way to say this is all in your head. This is human nature. If you’re mentally burned out, emotionally spent, and/or physically exhausted– disconnected from your best self –you’ll feel disconnected from those around you.
You might need some alone time. Engage in some things that recharge and re-energize you. Don’t feel an ounce of guilt for taking care of yourself. This equips you to connect with others in meaningful ways.
4. Seek help if there is a need
By disconnected, do you mean things like:
- Lost interest in your spouse
- You don’t share the same vibe anymore
- Your interests areas are different now
- There is no intimacy anymore
- You don’t communicate openly anymore
These can be signs of deeper relationship issues that cannot be fixed immediately. If you feel like your spouse is more of a roommate and less of a soulmate, it’s time to seek some counselling and therapy. Whatever you have to do to connect with your spouse is worth it. Never forget you chose your partner to be with till eternity, and there is no relationship which is sans problems. The key is to find a solution sooner and fix it.