Like the saying goes, First impression is the last impression.
When you’re going on a date, it’s important to present your best self to make sure that things go well. As long as you’re polite and considerate, show an interest in your date and make sure that they’re enjoying themselves, you’re almost guaranteed to fuel the fires of attraction and score the opportunity of a second date.
Here are 7 first date tips every woman and man should know before hopping on a carriage with the one.
Get yourself clean.
Take a hot shower, wash your hair and brush your teeth. You’re going to want to make sure that you’re clean, fresh and ready to put your best foot forward from the skin outward. It can be awkward going on a date with someone who smells bad or has food stuck in their teeth, so start by taking care of your basic hygiene needs.
Pick out a sharp outfit.
Wear clothing that is eye-catching and complements your figure. Choose an outfit that is appropriate for the venue where you’re meeting for your date. If you’re going to the opera, for instance, break out the fitted suit or evening dress, or wear neatly pressed khakis. A simple button-down shirt or a tasteful skirt and blouse will look great if you’re going somewhere more casual. Your clothing choices should be stylish yet comfortable so that you can look and feel your best all evening long.
Don’t forget to put on a smile.
Be prepared to do a lot of smiling. If you’re nervous or feeling uncomfortable, don’t let it show. Instead, keep smiling and act natural. Not only will smiling make you more attractive to your date, it can improve your own mood, as well.
Be on time.
Make sure you’re there when you say you’re going to be. Call your date to confirm whether you’re to meet them at a previously agreed upon location or swinging by to pick them up. Give yourself plenty of time to take care of last minute tasks before you have to leave. Punctuality is an extremely important quality, as it shows that you’re reliable and can be taken at your word. Showing up late is a surefire way to ruin a good first impression.
Avoid the usual questions.
Ask your date questions about themselves to find out more about them, but don’t confine your topics to just work, hobbies and personal beliefs. Inquire about their family, pets, favorite music and places they like to vacation. Be enthusiastic about getting to know them. You might pose questions sure to capture their imagination, like “what’s the most interesting thing about you?” or “if you only had one day to live, what would you do?” Treat your date like a date, not a job interview.
Look for things you have in common.
As you’re talking to your date, pick up on similarities between the two of you. Perhaps you’re both dog lovers and can bond over pictures of your pets, or you might discover that you’re both die hard supporters of the same sports team. Highlighting what you have in common is the best way to establish a deeper connection. It can also take some of the pressure off conversation starting out, as you’ll find that you have much more to talk about.
Make it less about you (and more about them)
How do you look? Are you saying interesting things? Are you flirting enough but not too much?
The truth is none of these things really matter. Because the first date is always much less about you and more about how the other person feels when they are around you. Instead of talking and sharing all about yourself, give your partner a chance to talk and share his ideas and opinions. Be a good listener and everything will into a place eventually.