Infidelity is certainly one of the factors that can destroy a marriage. It is one of the worst things that can happen to a relationship. The betrayal of a partner in a marriage is one of the most traumatising events that can occur to anyone. It sometimes destroys everything that a couple had built for years, as the case may be. In many cases, love is shattered, trust is broken, families are torn apart, and both spouses and their children bear the pain.
Like many incidents of life, many partners who had been victims to an adulterous affair did not see it coming. It can blindside one and before one knows it, one is already feeling completely helpless. This is because infidelity can feel like a fatal blow, particularly to trust in one’s marriage.
To keep your marriage alive, you and your spouse must talk to one another. It sounds simple but I don’t just mean saying good morning and good night in passing. Instead, have honest conversations about how you’re feeling, what you expect from one another and what is and isn’t working in your marriage. Equally as important is never holding onto your emotions.
To have effective conversations with your spouse, it’s important to let them know that they can be open and honest with you about their thoughts, feelings and desires.
APPRECIATE YOUR SPOUSE
Take the time to appreciate your partner everyday even for the little things. It’s usually those little things that mean the most. So even when you’re having a bad day, make a conscious effort to not to nag or belittle your partner for things that they may unknowingly do that annoy you.
Appreciation goes a long way when it comes to commitment. Since no one wants to be with somebody that makes them feel bad or worthless on a regular basis, expressing these types of feelings towards your spouse is an effective way to prevent cheating in your marriage.
KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE
Similar to intimacy, it’s crucial to keep that spark of romance alive. This means taking the time to express your love and appreciation and at the same time having some fun together. It only takes a small gesture to be romantic and to show your spouse that you still care. So try surprising them with dinner when they get home from a long day of work or offering to rub their feet when you relax on the couch together. You know these may seem like small actions but they speak volumes.
It has been proven that when you and your spouse both feel good about yourselves and the relationship, it decreases the chance of either one of you looking for love and romance.
TRY TO AVOID JEALOUSY.
They said with love comes jealousy.. But how far is that true? In most relationships there will come a time when you question your partner’s feelings or behavior towards someone else.
As tough as it may be, it’s important not to become angry or critical towards your partner or the person they are giving attention to.
Jealousy is a natural emotion but it’s also a toxic one that usually leads to self-pity and anger. To be jealous towards someone that your spouse shows interest in will not win back their attention. Instead, you’ll look immature and foolish and it’s also likely to push your spouse further away. It would be better to communicate with your spouse and sort things out as quickly as possible.
EMPHASIZE MORE ON COMMITMENT
Although you and your spouse are already in a committed relationship, it’s still important to remind each other of the benefits of being married. You both have somebody who knows you better than anyone else. Someone you have shared history and life memories with, someone you could rely on, someone to grow old with. Reminding your partner of the many reasons you decided to commit to one another can revive nostalgic feelings and happy memories.
GROW AND LEARN TOGETHER
We all change as we age and a big part of being a married couple is to learn and grow together. If you ignore the inevitable toll of time and expect what worked in the year one of your marriage to still work in your sixth, then your relationship could very well be doomed.
A big part of growing with your spouse is finding new things to do together. One of the best ways to prevent cheating is by being a part of the things that your partner enjoys doing in their free time. Bonding over shared interests will give you both something enjoyable to do while sharing quality time with one another.
TO CHANGE THE SITUATION,CHANGE YOURSELF
There is no single answer to not cheating. If it were that simple, no one would be doing it. Furthermore, learning how to stop cheating is a process that requires several steps and time.
Understanding why it happens is often the first and critical step towards stopping cheating. It is also essential to know what you want from a relationship and whether you can get it in your current one. What is the affair helping you accomplish? Try questioning yourself and try changing yourself to overcome the situation.